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Shocking news: I'm not perfect

9/12/2012

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urbanog.com heelless shoe
It’s been over two weeks since my last post and, sorry to say, I’ve still got nuttin’. Sure, a few seeds were planted. I just couldn't seem to get them to germinate this time. Like this new trend in shoes. Heelless? Really? Who came up with that?

And this road sign I came across a few weeks ago. I should haven been able to make a joke about that.

speed limit 19-1/2
I swear to God this isn't Photoshopped.
But I couldn’t. My mind has been cluttered. There's just so much going on right now. And as much as I'd love for you to believe I've got it all together, I just don't.

For some reason that makes me think of Sturgis, that motorcycle festival in South Dakota. Why? Well, years back when my family was on the road during vacation we saw a man on a motorcycle. He was huge, with tattooed arms, a shaved head and a scraggly beard. Simply put, he looked scary. That is, until we saw the back of his motorcycle. Then we had to giggle. There, attached with duct tape, was a cardboard sign that said, “Stoogis or bust.”

Yep. You read that right. Stoogis. It's hard to look like a badass when you make a mistake like that.

I have to admit, when I see people goof up like that, I feel better about myself. Not in an ‘I’m better than you’ kind of way, but more of a ‘looks like I’m not the only one who doesn’t have life all figured out.’  

We all have struggles, things we don’t want other to know lest they judge us as less than absolutely perfect. In our society it’s so important that people see us as having our lives under total control. I feel such pressure to be the perfect mom, perfect friend, perfect writer, perfect wife. And I’m not. Not even close. I don’t have all the answers. Heck, I don’t even know all of the questions.

So if you ever feel like you don’t measure up, don’t worry. You’re in good company. It’s rare to find someone who thinks they've got life all figured out, and those people are usually jerks.

Just keep on plugging and do the best that you can. That’s all anyone can ask. If you make a mistake, I'm might giggle, but I'll also forgive you. Promise me you'll do the same.

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Helena Fortissima link
9/12/2012 02:36:03 am

Stoogis...I love it! So typical. I'm so much more relaxed and happy, now that I no longer feel the need to pursue perfection. After perfection, there's nothing left....boring! Did you try on that shoe, BTW?

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Mom link
9/12/2012 02:49:27 am

That's awesome for you. I'm not quite there yet, but getting closer. It just makes life so hard. Allowing others to be less than perfect is another thing that's important to do, too.

As for trying on that shoe? I'm too big a klutz. I'd land in the ER for sure!

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nothingprofound link
9/12/2012 05:39:36 am

Great post, Janene. Open and honest. Some day I'll be perfectly dead, and that's enough perfection for one lifetime. Until then, I'll just relax and enjoy life

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Mom link
9/12/2012 07:46:34 am

Perfectly dead. I think I'll be able to manage that, too. ;) As always, thanks for such a wise, but fun, response.

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Jayme link
9/13/2012 03:00:21 am

Welcome to the perfectly imperfect club :D
You reminded of a quote I like:
"I myself am made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions."

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Mom link
9/13/2012 06:16:41 am

That's a great quote, jayme. Going to put it in my pocket at give it a pat.

Done. :)

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Words Of Deliciousness link
9/13/2012 12:24:19 pm

That is so true, I haven't met anyone that is perfect... even though some people think they are perfect. We all have to plugging along in life.

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Mom link
9/13/2012 10:28:14 pm

That's me, a plugger. As for people who think they are perfect? Can't say I'm a fan of them. Too much hubris.

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zobop republic link
9/14/2012 01:21:16 am

When I was younger, [teenager era], I was a little concered about "perfection". As I got older I kinda stopped caring.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not a slob. I groom myself and tuck in my shirt when I go outside. :)

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Mom link
9/14/2012 01:43:20 am

Is that why they call it 'outside' appearances? I'm with you. I cared more when I was younger and less confident in myself. Or maybe now I'm just lazier. ;)

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June O'Hara link
9/14/2012 02:45:13 am

I never, ever feel like I have it together. I'm generally in a state of overwhelm. And I don't see it changing anytime soon. I think it's just part of who I am.



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Mom link
9/14/2012 04:41:06 am

June, that sounds just like me right now. When will it end? Like you, I fear it won't be anytime soon. But I can't let it bring me down. I hate to lower the standards I have for myself, but I think I'm just going to have to.

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Angie Alaniz
9/14/2012 07:02:05 am

Striving for excellence motivates you; striving for perfection is demoralizing.
~Harriet Braiker

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Theresa H Hall link
9/14/2012 07:06:17 am

Angie, I like this saying.

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Mom link
9/15/2012 10:43:09 am

Me, too!

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Theresa H Hall link
9/14/2012 07:05:17 am

Honey, Come on over to my place and kick off those high ____ shoes (no heels crazy) relax and read for ten minutes. You'll soon see that I admit I don't have the answers ... well a good amount of them yes, but don't you go worrying any. We're in this writing life together. Hugs!

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Mom link
9/15/2012 10:46:05 am

It's a date! Can I wear my jammies or a velour track suit? Yep, that's the mindset I'm in right now. :)

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Lama
9/14/2012 08:39:51 am

Nice post! Do not waste your life being uncomfortable, our imperfections makes us the people we are today. Who would want to be a perfect boring person? It is impossible for a human to be perfect anyways so: Who wants to pretend to be a perfect boring person?

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Mom link
9/15/2012 10:51:59 am

You're right. Perfect people can be boring. Just look at reality shows for confirmation. None of the people on those shows have it together and look how many people tune in! :) (In all seriousness, I agree with you!)

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Mulled Vine link
9/14/2012 05:58:04 pm

Nobody measures up. I find I am my toughest critic, and even though I seek affirmation all the time, I am surprisingly disdainful when it comes. Almost as if I say: if you really knew me you wouldn't praise me. A very heavy burden.

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Mom link
9/15/2012 10:54:53 am

Oh, my! I want to reach out and give you a big hug through the computer screen. Aren't we all our worst critics? Still, we have to love ourselves. Like everyone is saying, perfection is overrated and way too high a standard. You're 'perfect' just the way you are!

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Lilly link
9/17/2012 05:37:40 pm

Just found your blog from BC and the I love @Janenemurphy thread. Great blog and am now following. And yes, perfection does not exist, the sooner we realise that life gets a hell of a lot more tolerable.

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Mom link
9/17/2012 10:49:07 pm

Yay! I love BC. Thanks so much for following me.Here's to a less perfect, more tolerable world!

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